Known Turf: Streets, stories, strategies

Beautiful post at Known Turf: Streets, stories, strategies.

Somehow, Andrea Dworkin’s words on pornography seem to fit here :

When we talk about pornography that objectifies women, we are talking about the sexualization of insult, of humiliation; I insist that we are also talking about the sexualization of cruelty. And this is what I want to say to you–that there is cruelty that does not have in it overt violence.
There is cruelty that says to you, you are worth nothing in human terms. There is cruelty that says you exist in order for him to wipe his penis on you , that’s who you are, that’s what you are for. I say that dehumanizing someone is cruel; and that it does not have to be violent in order for it to be cruel.

Things are done to women day in and day out that would be construed to be violent if they were done in another context, not sexualized, to a man; women are pushed, shoved, felt up, called dirty names, have their passage physically blocked on the street or in the office; women simply move on, move through, unless the man escalates the violence to what the larger patriarchal world takes to be real violence: ax murder; sadistic stranger rape or gang rape; serial killing not of prostitutes. The touching, the pushing, the physical blockades–these same invasions done to men would be comprehended as attacks. Done to women, people seem to think it’s bad but it’s okay, it’s bad but it’s all right, it’s bad but, hey, that’s the way things are; don’t make a federal case out of it. It occurs to me that we have to deal here–the heart of the double standard–with the impact of orgasm on our perception of what hatred is and is not.

Isn’t that apt – “the impact of orgasm on our perception of what hatred is and is not”

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One Response

  1. theres this writer called norman mailer…who wrote somewhere…that having lived his life and pondered long on the ultimate aim…he could best express it as.. “the quest for the ultimate orgasm”.–>

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